Do you know my future wife?

I'm giving $100,000 to whoever introduces me to her.

The goal

I'm looking for someone worthy of bringing home to Mom by Mother's Day 2027.

Mom says I'm missing out on the best life has to offer. She's right. So I'm putting the same intentionality into finding my partner that I've put into my other goals.

Jonathan and his mother, her arms around his shoulders, in front of a window box of petunias on an Amsterdam street
Mom and I in Amsterdam celebrating her 70th birthday last year.

About me

Age
42
Residence
San Francisco, CA
Favorite quote

“Life shrinks or expands in proportion to one’s courage.”

Anaïs Nin
Countries visited
27
Books read
500+
Zodiac sign
Scorpio
Height
6’1”(with tape measure)
Myers Briggs personality
ENTJ
Hobbies
Intellectually stimulating conversations, stand-up comedy, snowboarding, golf, basketball, personal development, travel, ideation.

Check me out. Follow me on IG or LinkedIn.

My red flags

“The degree to which a person can grow is directly proportional to the amount of truth he can accept about himself without running away.”

— Leland Val Van de Wall

I'm far from perfect, but I'm committed to becoming the best version of myself, and I'm looking for a partner to help me get there.

My biggest area for growth is emotional intelligence. I regret having hurt people I care about by focusing on fact and not tact.

Two years ago, I found out I have ADHD. It's been an eye-opener in understanding how it impacts every area of my life, especially relationships.

I've invested tens of thousands of dollars in therapy, coaching, retreats, seminars, and books. I'm proud of the man I am today, but I'm even more proud of the man I'm becoming.

What do my friends and family say?

Hear from some people that know me.

The needle in the haystack

What I'm looking for

I know what I'm looking for. I know my wife exists. We just haven't met each other yet.

Love has the highest ROI

The best investors know, a great life partner pays the best dividends.

  • Codie Sanchez
    “The best investment you will ever make is in the person you choose to spend your life with.”
    Codie SanchezFounder, Contrarian Thinking
  • Warren Buffett
    “The most important decision you make is who you marry. It dwarfs every other choice.”
    Warren BuffettCEO, Berkshire Hathaway
  • Robert Kiyosaki
    “To me, a spouse should be a life partner AND a business partner.”
    Robert KiyosakiAuthor, Rich Dad, Poor Dad

Photographs Codie Sanchez: profile photograph via X (@Codie_Sanchez) · Warren Buffett: US International Trade Administration, public domain · Robert Kiyosaki: Gage Skidmore, CC BY-SA 3.0

The 4Fs

The Equation of a Great Relationship

Further + Faster + Funner − Friction

  • FURTHER

    In a great relationship, you both go further than you would alone. More of life, more encouragement, more support.

  • FASTER

    Two people pulling in the same direction get there faster. You share the load and lean on each other's strengths.

  • FUNNER

    The ride gets better. More laughter, more energy, more inside jokes, and more simply enjoying each other's company.

  • FRICTION

    Friction is the drama, the miscommunication, and the blowups. Great couples work to keep it low.

The Math of a Great Marriage

What the research says a great partnership is worth.

  • 30%

    Happier

  • 58%

    Life expectancy

  • $437K

    Wealthier

What is the right partner worth to you?

What is the right partner worth to you?
34
$80K
6/ 10
Now
Adjust assumptions

Waiting one more year costs you about $20K.

+$1.17M more in your pocket by 80, per person. 6.5 out of 10, life satisfaction, up from 6. +2.0 years, of life, on average. That's 1.7x going it alone, or about $70 for every day you're together.

Projected net worth by age, with the right partner, going it alone, and with the wrong partnerAge 34Age 80With the right partner$2.77MGoing it alone$1.60MWith the wrong partner$1.01M
Projected net worth by age, with the right partner, going it alone, and with the wrong partner
AgeWith the right partnerGoing it aloneWith the wrong partner
34$80K$80K$80K
44$218K$193K$91K
54$476K$378K$211K
64$961K$678K$406K
74$1.87M$1.17M$725K
80$2.77M$1.60M$1.01M

Per person. Same market return alone or together. The right partner adds a small yearly growth boost from shared costs and shared goals. Research shows correlation, not a guarantee. Pick Conservative if you're skeptical.

Process

How it works

No tricks. No fine print that hides the truth.

  1. Introduce me to someone amazing

  2. If things work out*

  3. You get $100,000

*Together in a committed relationship for 24 consecutive months.

This is bigger than me.

The $100,000 Challenge is part of The Courage for Love Campaign. The world needs more love, and love takes courage — to put yourself out there, to say what you want, to risk looking foolish.

FAQs

You have questions. Here are the straight answers. This is all part of The Courage for Love Campaign. How it works.

Is this real?

Yes. 100% real, and no, it's not a joke.

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How do I earn the $100,000?

Introduce me to someone through this site. If she and I are together in a committed relationship for 24 straight months, you get paid.

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Can I introduce myself?

Yes, and I'd love to hear from you. But the $100,000 only goes to a third party who makes an introduction. So if you're interested, ask a friend to introduce you.

What happens after I submit someone?

She instantly gets an email from me, Jonathan Graham, with the subject '[Your name] thinks we should meet.' It invites her to fill out her own short profile. She has 14 days to complete it. If there's a fit, I'll reach out to her directly.

See how it works

What happens to the information I submit?

It's used for one thing: helping me decide whether to reach out to the person you introduced. I don't sell it, share it, or use it for anything else. If you or she wants it deleted, email hello@dailycourage.com with the subject line "Data Deletion Request" and we'll delete it within three business days.

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What are you looking for?

I've written it down in detail — values, faith, how she handles conflict, whether she'd relocate for love, what kind of family she wants. Read it before you introduce someone.

What I'm looking for

Is there a deadline? What if you don't find her?

Introductions open October 15, 2026 and close March 31, 2027. If it doesn't happen, it doesn't happen. Either someone introduces me to my person, or nobody gets paid.

Why would you spend $100,000 on this?

The right partner is the highest-return investment I'll ever make. I'm building Daily Courage as my life's work, and I want the right woman beside me for it.

See the math

Who can enter?

Nominators must be 18 or older. Nominees must be 21 or older with no felony convictions.

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How and when do I get paid?

By wire, initiated within five business days after we hit 24 months in a committed relationship.

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Can I introduce more than one person?

Yes, absolutely. Please do. But quality over quantity: read what I'm looking for first. No spam, please.

What I'm looking for

Does she have to know I'm nominating her?

Yes. Always. Tell her first and make sure she's on board before you submit.

Got another question?

Ask me on Instagram. I answer questions there every week.

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Is this just about you finding a wife?

No, this is part of something much bigger than me: The Courage for Love Campaign. The world needs more love, and love takes courage — to put yourself out there, to say what you want, to risk looking foolish. I teach courage for a living, so I'm leading by example.

Learn about Courage for Love

I'm a matchmaker, therapist, coach, or brand. How do I partner with you?

I'd love to hear from you. The $100,000 Challenge is part of The Courage for Love Campaign, and there's room for people who help others find and keep love. Email hello@dailycourage.com with who you are and what you have in mind.

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